Survival Tips: Doing Free Design Work for Friends and Family

by on 24th May 2011 with 20 Comments

As a designer, you’ve no doubt encountered situations where friends, family members, neighbors or even mere acquaintances ask you for a favor in the form of free design work. If you’ve ever given in to one of these requests, you probably know how quickly they can get out of hand.

How should you respond to these requests and what should you prepare for if you take one on? Today we explore the wonderful world of pro bono design.

The All Too True Tale

Anyone with a job in design knows the story well. Once people realize what you do for a living, favors will be expected. It’s just something small. It’ll only take you a second because you’re so good (flattery always helps).

I know exactly how these things work out, yet still I falter. Just recently some family members contacted me about creating a logo for a little side business they were starting. They had tried their darndest to create something themselves but to no avail. I would surely be able to top their ideas in a matter of minutes right? Because I’m so good at what I do? The work will be free of course.

I gave in. It was against my better judgment, past experience and everything I’ve read but I trudged ahead with a childish sense of optimism. I sketched out some quick ideas, followed one of them to completion and even included a few alternate versions for different use cases.

I had not only successfully fulfilled this favor, I had gone above and beyond the call of duty! Surely my amazingly generous act and obvious talent would win me some major bonus points. It took me a few hours but I felt better having done my good deed for the day.

They wanted something “a little more basic, but still kinda fancy.”

Then I received the email back. They were asking for a few small changes. First of all, they wanted something “a little more basic, but still kinda fancy”, next they wanted me to add a long tag line that would screw up the layout, change the name of the company that they had given me the first time around and finally, change the colors.

To be honest, I’m still not entirely sure how to interpret these vague changes, but I knew one thing for certain: they wanted a complete redesign. Oh and here’s the kicker: I received this email on a Saturday afternoon and they absolutely had to have the changes completed that day.

My optimism had been brutally stabbed in the heart. The favor had gone exactly where I knew it would and turned into a major annoyance, and a free one at that. Now I was faced with becoming the bad guy and telling them that I couldn’t come through on their unrealistic expectations. Somehow, my good deed had turned into me being selfish and uncooperative!

The Problem with Working for Free

The problem with doing free design work for friends and family is that it’s just that: free. Because you’re good at what you do, it’s hard to put less effort into a project, no matter what you’re getting paid. This leaves the burden of recognition for the favor on the receiver and it’s a long shot that they’ll remotely understand the time and effort you’ll be putting into their “small” favor.

“Suddenly, your free project is going through hours and hours of redesign time and actually eating into your work for paying clients!”

Ideally, your friends would fully realize what they’re asking and do their best to not act like a paying client. Unfortunately, this almost never happens. Instead, as soon as those emails start flying, you take the role of the battered designer and they the role of a high roller client that you can’t afford to lose and will do anything to keep happy. Suddenly, your free project is going through hours and hours of redesign time and actually eating into your work for paying clients!

Tips for Free Work

If you’re a nice guy or gal, at this point you’re probably nodding your head furiously. You’ve been here before and will be again. Every time it happens you somehow manage to get trapped in an ugly situation.

Let’s take a look at some tips for preparing for this unfortunately inevitable situation. Below are some things you need to keep in mind and some suggested actions to choose from.

It’s OK to Say “No”

First and foremost you need to come to the realization that “no” is a perfectly acceptable answer. You don’t have to be a complete jerk to turn someone down when they want you to do some pro bono work, but saying “no” nicely isn’t exactly easy.

“You don’t have to be a complete jerk to turn someone down.”

Some take the route of turning it into a matter of policy: I have a policy not to do free work for friends and family. Such a policy might be awesome to have, but stating that outright might sound like you’re accusing your friend of trying to take advantage of you.

Some genuinely are and need to hear it. Others though simply don’t have a strong grasp of the time and effort that goes into a logo, a flyer or even a full on website, which is exactly why they ask you to do it for free. At this point, try offering up the simple explanation that you’re completely swamped and can’t take on any extra work at this time.

If someone really cares about you and sees their favor as something that will significantly add to the mound of stress that you’re already facing at work daily, they’ll back off.

Be Ready for a Full-Blown Client

When should you say “no” as opposed to giving in and doing someone a favor? When you’re not ready to take on a new client that doesn’t pay you. This may seem obvious, but the key here is to realize that this won’t just be a quick, one time favor for Aunt Sue, but a drawn-out and possibly ongoing client relationship that you’re starting.

“It’s rare that someone can ask you to create something that exists only in their head and be satisfied with your first attempt.”

As my story above illustrates, no matter how great you did on the first round, the changes will come and they will be time-intensive. It’s rare that someone can ask you to create something that exists only in their head and be satisfied with your first attempt.

If you’re interested in doing the favor, say “yes” with the full knowledge that the person will act like a client. They will impose deadlines, snub your work, request large-scale changes, call you at inconvenient times to discuss the project, send you emails at 2am describing a brilliant idea that they just had and engage in every other act that paying clients do, except of course writing you a check.

Be Wary of Unrealistic Turnarounds

Let’s say you’re Mr. Nice Guy and actually want to continue to do favors for people, no matter how many times you get screwed over. The story above illustrates that I’m obviously stuck in this camp. I enjoy using my talents to help people out every now and then, but I don’t enjoy the realization that my consideration isn’t being reciprocated.

One of the major pitfalls here is something I fell into right away in the situation above. Upon agreeing to do a free project for a friend or family member, I tend to jump right on it to get it out of the way. My naive thought is that this diligence will be rewarded with a pat on the back and a nice “you’re a lifesaver”.

“I’ve shown right away that design work can be rushed and turned around very quickly.”

The reality is that I’ve shown right away that design work can be rushed and turned around very quickly. They only just asked me to do the favor and the next morning here it is sitting in their inbox. That means it’s no big deal to ask me to start over and have it done in a few hours!

If you want to keep expectations in the ballpark of realistic, stop turning free work around so quickly. Explain to the person that it’s going to take time and has to come in after paying clients who have contracts in place that can’t be broken.

Once they realize that their free logo will take 2-3 weeks, they’ll hopefully come to the conclusion that the favor is a significant one. Then when they ask for changes, you can kindly explain that, once again, it’s going to have to get thrown at the bottom of the stack and will take some time to get to. All the waiting might just make them turn elsewhere, and trust me, that’s not a bad thing.

Bartering Can Be Great

If the person asking for a handout isn’t someone that you see as fit for charity, then consider setting up a barter situation. Unlike free work, these agreements can be immensely beneficial if you’re skilled in structuring them.

“Unlike free work, these agreements can be immensely beneficial.”

For instance, let’s say your pal Joe wants a logo for his landscaping company. Explain to Joe that you typically charge $X for a logo project and will therefore give him a free logo if you get the same amount of money back in landscaping services.

If you’re good enough, before you know it, you’ve got people mowing your lawn, cleaning your pool and giving you free meals at their restaurant! As long as both parties are professional enough to not get greedy and take advantage of the agreement to their obvious favor, everybody wins.

Conclusion

At one point or another, we all swear we’ll never take on another free project again. If you’re like me, you suck at making good on that promise.

Keep in mind that it’s perfectly acceptable to turn a friend or family member down, that saying “yes” means taking on a full-blown client, that completing the first round quickly only sets unrealistic expectations for change and that, when compared to 100% free work, bartering can be a fantastic alternative.

Do you have a horror story of a free project gone wrong? We want to hear it! Leave a comment below with your story along with any tips you have for working for friends and family.

Comments & Discussion

20 Comments

  • Ann

    Thanks for writiing this article, I stepped in this pittfall more then once….

  • LizF

    Exactly what I needed to read TODAY! Read my mind. Thanks for the great article!

    I agree, is -expensive- to say ‘YES for free’.

  • http://prabin.com.np Prabs

    Story of my life…not any more…thanks for sharing.

  • http://buero.stoltenhoff.de jan

    … stepped many times in this trap, too. tips, links and advices for free, but every hour costs money. and „clients“ without proper briefings consuming a lot of them ;-)

  • Gemma

    I did a free website design and build for my (then) boyfriends friend. It was going to be a small site and they ‘just’ needed some help setting it up on a server, etc. I was still maintaining the website, making changes and doing work YEARS after I’d split with said boyfriend! It turned very ugly in the end. Now I never say yes to free work – not even for friends. I’d rather say no than loose a friend.

  • Ole

    Great article. Friends can be more a pain in the … than paying clients. And you think, you can do a great design, now you can decide the work yourself – but in the end their wishes and demands screw the design up!

  • Marisca

    That’s what I needed, A good article to start the day! :-) A small favor, turned out a big favor, FOR FREE! Thanks for sharing…It’s ok to say NO!! I keep that in mind.

  • http://www.g-raph.be Gunter

    Thx 4 the post. I often have this problem…

  • Carl Ahearne

    I often fall into a similar trap to this one; I do a project for a friend and give them a price without really setting a brief. A small website often ends up turning into a massive one, but because I didn’t specify what I would deliver, I just carry out the extra work because its for a friend. I now go into much more detail on the brief at the beginning and they know exactly what they are getting.. Extra work means extra money. A true friend will appreciate the value of your time and skills and pay accordingly..

  • http://www.website-squad.com Rohit

    Yeah, I know that feeling very well. The first time this happened, my brother in law tried to get me to design and develop a website for his business. He “insisted” on paying me, and since he “knew” I would not accept any money from him, he offered to pay me in kind – by taking me to lunch! I mumbled something about having too much work on my plate to take on anything new, and got out of there as fast as I could!

  • Joshua Johnson

    A website for a lunch! That’s a laughable trade!

  • birgit

    i know that too good. did a flyer for my neighbour. she wanted a certain type of colour, that I knew she would not get from the cheapest print discount that she wanted to take. – later she hated the color (that was actually very close to what we have seen on the display to my surprise) and she said that her boyfriend had a proper color choosing tool on his computer that would do it better.
    due to endless nervewrecking hours of talk, I made some mistakes in the layout, which I later offered to correct and reprint for free – but without fiddling on the colour. she declined.
    the free massages she offered me in exchange for my work never happened. I was too frightened to ask…

    It took us a long time to reconcile and it is hard for me to bear that she thinks I am a design-idiot. But we are talking again, avoiding design.

    b

  • http://tomdurkin.me Tom Durkin

    I’ve been doing a few free design jobs at the moment to try and get my web design portfolio underway but so far so good…the people genuinely seem to see it as a favor and have showered me in free booze ever since.

    Thanks for the post though, this will be a great reminder for the future.

    Tom

  • http://www.peartreeandcompany.com Toby

    I have a simple rule for all friends and family(excluding my parents who paid generously for my education and who have thousands of hours of design services at their disposal), if I can provide simple advice for their space then I am happy to help. Less than an hour of time – no problem. More than that and I need to charge/barter so that they get the full help they need. Just like a doctor at a party – if you can describe your issues and I can give a general suggestion = free, if you need to come in and set up an appointment = $. My husband always butts in and reminds everyone this is how I make my living :)Love this article. Cheers!

  • Ronnie

    I guess we all make that mistake sometime. But how can you brake up with a non paying ‘client’?! I did a free website for some event for writers, there was hardly any budget, so I did it for free. It turned into a yearly event… ! I’ve done it for 4 years now and it’s hard to bail out, without feeling like a badass. Any suggestions?

  • http://www.winoldi.nl Mark Jan Meerdink

    Great article. I found that when people know that they are paying for your time, it makes them think more carefully too. 1 or 2 emails with a concise change request iso 10 fuzzy ‘brainwave’ emails. I have been in similar situations often and the barter deal is the ideal way out for me.

  • Nick

    I’m at an internship and my girlfriend is a student and she asked very nicely, and months ahead, for a placard introducing her photo project. I figured it was simple enough, she never gave a hard deadline so i kept thinking about it in my off time but never really set anything out.

    This week she reminds me about it, give me a few specs and says she wasn’t it like a museum placard. Simple enough except she hasn’t sent me any content. Slowly I start getting the images (2) but still no copy. So I set out a few quick layouts just finding a typeface and making sure the sizing works so I can drop in the copy, make some edits, and have a quick and decent looking piece ready to print.

    I finally get the copy and I find out she wants the title in Hebrew (first time I heard anything about it). So my layouts are basically scrapped since only a few typefaces even have Hebrew characters. Her simple solution is to write it out herself on a wacom and use that, but it ends up with ragged edges and a last character that is three times taller than the others.

    In this same week is the discovery of a single bedbug and the entire ordeal puts this project to the back of my mind because I need to be able to sleep if I’m gong to be able to work. I also have a whole mess of helping my sister move and subletting an apartment that are all falling onto this upcoming weekend.

    A few days later, the day before the exterminator comes, I’m talking to her and she says that it turns out this placard is gonna need to be due next Wednesday (less than a week). I’m flustered, I try to think when I’ll be able to do this, but I take to long. She get’s mad that it seems like such a burden, she says she’ll get someone else to do it because they “know her better.” And, despite having planned this trip a week ahead, she is no longer coming to see me this weekend because “we aren’t getting along” right now.

    I want to help so bad, but I really have to learn to say no.

    I really just wanted to get that out. Feels better now, sorry it’s so long but if you read it, thanks for taking the time.

  • http://www.airjordansforcheap.net Authentic Jordans For Sale

    I might be reading into it, but I should say, don’t be the needy guy. If she isn’t being responsive, leave her alone for the time being and talk to her another day. To her mind, it goes like this: “if he’s like this as friends, how overbearing will he be in a relationship.” Because the simplest way to imagine a relationship is basically “everything is enhanced, more important. We would be more than friends, everything is more.” As the first reply said, don’t be all “I’m in love with you” to a girl who doesn’t know you all too intimately. Especially when you don’t know if you’ll function as a couple. What you’re in love with would be your idealized notion of the relationship. Just pursue it like you’re asking anyone out on a date.

  • Gwen

    Haha, completely understand. I’m a high schooler, but I do a lot of graphic design and photography. SO many friends ask me to do photoshoots for them all the time (even a few people I barely know have asked me) and while I do it for free because I don’t think I’m nearly good enough to charge for it, the time doing the shoot, planning it, and finally editing it takes up very large portions of my time!

  • farrah

    I have experienced this my entire life! People really take advantage. One visit to a client turns into several of “oh can you stop by just one more time”.
    a designer’s nightmare! Do your friends think that you want to spend your free time doing more work for free? You need to say before hand, did you know that I charge xxx to do that? somehow when $ is mentioned they leave you alone!

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